"everyone has to do it:" A joint action approach to managing social inattention

Jeremy Birnholtz*, Lindsay Reynolds, Madeline E. Smith, Jeff Hancock

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Abstract

In an always-connected world, managing social inattention - that is, explaining the inability to interact at a particular time - can be as important as coordinating mutual availability. Inattention, particularly if repeated, can have significant relational consequences as it may be considered rude and can lead to painful social outcomes. Prior research has examined the butler lie, one strategy commonly used to manage social inattention while preserving relationships. This paper builds on that via an interview study of 47 participants that qualitatively examines perceptions of butler lies from both the senders' and receivers' perspectives. Participants see butler lies as a common and useful inattention management strategy, but these messages can have a negative effect receivers do not perceive the senders' intentions to be positive. Factors affecting the perception of intent include relationship strength and history, the stakes of the situation, and past behavior. The paper argues that inattention management should be considered a joint coordination problem characterized by a willingness to accept the pragmatic relational meaning of messages, which may differ from their literal semantic meaning. This hints at a collaborative view of deception, in which some interlocutors are aware they are being deceived and willing to accept deception.

Original languageEnglish (US)
Pages (from-to)2230-2238
Number of pages9
JournalComputers in Human Behavior
Volume29
Issue number6
DOIs
StatePublished - 2013

Keywords

  • Availability
  • Butler lies
  • CMC
  • Joint action
  • Politeness
  • Text messaging

ASJC Scopus subject areas

  • Arts and Humanities (miscellaneous)
  • Human-Computer Interaction
  • Psychology(all)

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